Reclaiming 'Don’t Be a Dick': Navigating Collaboration in an Age of Protectionism

In today’s increasingly protectionist and self-preserving climate, the simple yet profound principle of ‘don’t be a dick’ is at risk of being forgotten.
This mantra, which underscores basic respect and constructive interaction, is overshadowed by a growing reluctance to listen and reflect. As we grapple with a more insular and judgmental world, reassessing the importance of openness and fair play in collaboration is crucial.

Donald Rumsfeld’s infamous quote about "known unknowns" and "unknown unknowns" provides a valuable perspective for understanding the current state of professional and collaborative practices. Rumsfeld said, “There are known knowns; there are things we know we know. We also know there are known unknowns; that is to say we know there are some things we do not know. But there are also unknown unknowns—the ones we don’t know we don’t know.” This complex statement highlights a fundamental truth: our understanding is inherently limited and filled with uncertainties.

In collaborative settings, Rumsfeld’s insight underscores the need to recognise and accept our knowledge gaps. Yet, many retreat into echo chambers, avoiding unfamiliar or conflicting perspectives to protect their own positions. This insularity undermines the collaborative ethos of openness and fair play. True collaboration thrives on embracing ideas beyond our immediate comprehension, and dismissing the possibility of "unknown unknowns" stifles growth and innovation.

Openness is key. It means being receptive to new information and acknowledging that our knowledge is incomplete. This approach fosters an environment where diverse viewpoints can be shared and explored, leading to more robust problem-solving. However, the rise of judgmental attitudes is a significant barrier to such openness. Judging others based on limited information or preconceived notions stifles dialogue and perpetuates division. Instead of engaging constructively, judgment often leads to defensiveness and disengagement.

Respect and manners are not mere formalities but essential components of effective communication. The principle of ‘don’t be a dick’ calls for basic decency and empathy, ensuring that all voices are valued and heard. This respectful engagement enables productive discussions and fosters a culture where feedback is constructive rather than contentious.

The trend towards protectionism and insularity is concerning but not insurmountable. To overcome these challenges, we must commit to continuous learning and adaptability. Recognising that our knowledge is always evolving and being open to diverse perspectives can help us break down barriers of judgment and defensiveness. By prioritising openness and fair play, we can build more inclusive and effective collaborative practices.

While navigating a protectionist and judgmental world is challenging, it is not without hope. By embracing the core values of ‘don’t be a dick’—respect, openness, and fairness—we can enhance our collaborative efforts. Acknowledging the unknowns and remaining receptive to different viewpoints will not only improve our professional practices but also contribute to social progress and collective well-being. Through mutual respect and understanding, we can forge stronger connections and achieve greater successes together.

Thanks for reading. Till next time, Gordy