Stop Pissing Around: Why Aotearoa Needs to Care More About Each Other

In our increasingly hectic lives, it’s easy to get caught up in the daily grind—paying the mortgage, juggling work, and raising kids. We often convince ourselves that our individual struggles are paramount, leading to an insidious attitude that it’s acceptable to overlook the needs of others. 

Recently, a survey conducted by Tauranga City Council among CBD business owners regarding a proposed, now agreed, Rainbow Crossing revealed a troubling ambivalence. While it’s heartening to see few negative reactions, the overarching indifference toward a project celebrating diversity highlights a worrying trend: the erosion of empathy in our communities.

Let’s be clear: life is busy. Balancing family responsibilities and financial pressures can feel overwhelming. However, this shouldn’t excuse us from engaging with the broader societal issues that affect us all. Our individual well-being is intertwined with the well-being of our communities. When we neglect to care about our fellow human beings, we risk fostering a society that lacks compassion and understanding.

The Rainbow Crossing proposal was more than just a colorful addition to the streetscape; it represented an acknowledgment of the LGBTQ+ community and an embrace of diversity. In a city like Tauranga Moana, where we have an incredible mix of ethnicities, cultures, and social identities, such initiatives should be welcomed with open arms. They have the potential to create vibrant and interesting urban environments that reflect the rich tapestry of our society. So why the ambivalence?

This indifference can often be traced back to a deeply ingrained mindset: an economic indoctrination perhaps, that caring for others is secondary to our own challenges. It's everyone for themselves, best person for the job, an individualist mindset. It’s a dangerous narrative that suggests kindness and empathy are luxuries we can’t afford. Yet, this is precisely the kind of thinking that can stagnate our progress as a community. If we don’t actively foster an environment that celebrates diversity, we risk isolating marginalised voices, further entrenching societal divides.

Moreover, the indifference observed in Tauranga Moana is indicative of a broader phenomenon across Aotearoa New Zealand. Many people seem resigned to the belief that societal issues are someone else’s responsibility. This apathy undermines the very fabric of our society. Our future hinges on our ability to connect with one another, to advocate for inclusivity, and to nurture an environment where everyone feels valued.

Imagine the impact the Rainbow Crossing will have. It’s not just paint on the pavement; it’s a visible symbol of acceptance and community spirit. It sends a message that every individual, regardless of their background, is worthy of recognition and respect. A city that embraces such symbols fosters a sense of belonging and unity, crucial elements for a thriving community.

We cannot afford to dismiss the importance of caring for one another, particularly in a society as diverse as ours. Embracing our differences doesn’t merely enhance our cultural landscape; it enriches our social fabric. It invites creativity, innovation, and collaboration. A Tauranga Moana that cares is a community that flourishes.

So, let’s stop pissing around. We need to move beyond indifference and actively cultivate a culture of care and compassion. This begins with small actions—supporting local initiatives, attending community meetings, and advocating for inclusive policies. Let’s encourage open dialogues about what makes our city unique and ensure that every voice is heard.

The choice is ours. We can either continue down a path of ambivalence or commit to building a society that truly reflects the values of Aotearoa. Let’s champion diversity, engage with one another, and show that we care. In doing so, we not only enhance our individual lives but also create a legacy of empathy and unity for future generations.

Thanks for your eyes and your minds. 

Till next time,

Gordy